The Best Success Advice I’ve Ever Been Given
“Most people are only operating at a fraction of what they’re capable of.” -Darren Hardy
People are always asking me for tips about how to get results. The truth is, there are no tips. I learned the hard way. There are only behaviors you must apply in small doses constantly over time. First, ask yourself where you are now, and what outcome you want.
Best-selling author Jim Rohn once wrote: “Success is neither magical nor mysterious. Success is the natural consequence of consistently applying the basic fundamentals.”
If you apply the fundamentals consistently, you can accomplish more than you could ever imagine. Consistency is key. Consistency in the way you, step by step, day by day, work away at the problem you’re seeking to solve. My parents were remarkable goal-setters and achievers. They had relatively nothing coming to the U.S., but over time they built up their lives one goal at time. We had days where they couldn’t afford holiday gifts, but we were still able to show our family a warm Christmas. My mom told us, no matter what, do something small every day … save something small every week over time until you create a habit and it builds over time. I took that advice late in life but it was true. They achieved their dreams. My mom had her eye on a house she wanted and dreamed of getting, she drove by it regularly and darn if she didn’t eventually get it.
The hard reality is that if you want what no one has, you must do what no one has done. The truth is, most people aren’t able to give up what they need to experience what they dream about…
“If you want to live an exceptional and extraordinary life, you have to give up many of the things that are part of a normal one.” -Srinivas Rao
It’s all about the small things. It takes consistency, discipline, and perseverance in the face of all the distractions that tempt people daily. The mediocre will always try and keep you at their level. Status quo has no ladder up.
I wanted to write a book for years, but it wasn’t until I became disciplined and wrote every day that I accomplished that goal. I wanted a large number of followers on social media ( at my age, not an easy feat!) I consistently worked at it every day for 9 minutes. That 9 minutes a day gave me close to 100,000 followers collectively today.
It only takes a small amount of extra effort to unlock success. Sometimes, it’s the only way to succeed. I created a habit of doing 5 things every morning for 9 minutes. Reading a book, skimming social media posts, writing my book, posting on social media, and collecting notes and ideas for blogging. 9 minutes. I read about the power of the number nine.
Nine is a magic number:
- Nine is the number of completion and fulfillment.
- Nine is a symbol of wisdom and good leadership.
- Nine is the number of heaven.
- In Hinduism, nine is the number of Brahma, the Creator.
- Jesus died on the cross during the 9th hour
- For Hebrews nine is the symbol of truth
- November comes from the Latin word “novem”, meaning nine
- There are 9 justices of the supreme court
- 9 players on a baseball diamond
- 9 months for humans to create life
- I could go on… the temptations sang about cloud 9
This helped me develop a pattern to follow daily, and get results.
It’s hard, and there are goals I still struggle with today. You fall off the road and have to get back on… it all depends on how important this particular goal is to you. Or maybe you just aren’t sick and tired of the status-quo
You will attract whatever you believe in.
As a man thinketh, so he is. As he continues to think, so he remains.” -James Allen
It’s easy to stay complacent with the good rather than shoot for a dream. Dreams take work. What you do and think today will have consequences for where you are tomorrow. It’s hard work, but the changes you need to make are small to get there.
Like many of us, if you don’t have powerful self-belief, you should seek a coach or a mentor. I am willing to help anyone. Creating an “Off the Bench Experience” for people and companies is a goal of mine. I guarantee results for those who try. Most think this is about as good as it gets. For the most part, most people believe the best they can be is merely “good.” I was once told by a cheerleader when I played basketball “You think you’re good? Then try great, and see what happens.” It’s hard work… My turning point in life came when I stopped waiting for great to happen and I worked at it.
I still have a lot of goals to achieve … I struggle for consistent fitness goals, lowering my golf score, keeping love in my life alive, and being the oldest person to win Big Brother (yes, even the reality show junkie in me shoots for great!). I may not get them all, but for sure I will learn a great deal on the road less traveled … few people go there.
The last thing I will share is to make sure your allies keep your eyes on where you are going. “Check-ins”, Marcus Buckingham calls them. Make sure you regularly ensure that you are on the right path.
“If the ladder is not leaning against the right wall, every step we take just gets us to the wrong place faster.” -Stephen Covey
So, if you want to achieve results, reach the extraordinary, have an “Off the Bench Experience”, start treating yourself that way, and acting that way. You will attract what you are. Upgrade your mind and attitude, and you will achieve more than you ever thought you could.
If you want to get there faster, reach out to me at my contact page. Let’s get there together.